If I had my child to raise again, I’d build self-esteem first, I’d finger paint more, And point the finger less. I would do less correcting, And more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, And watch with my eyes. I would care to know less And care to know more. I’d take more hikes And fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious, And seriously play. I would run through more fields And gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging And less tagging. I’d see the Oak tree In the acorn more often, And affirm much more. I’d model less about the love of power, And more about the power of love.
I feel you, your pain, physically, mentally and emotionally., I understand you, your sacrifices. I hear you. your silent cries, your jumbled thoughts that keeps you awake at night. I know, it isn’t easy. I believe that being a single mom is the toughest job on Earth. You have to juggle too many roles. From cleaning the house to helping the kids, to going to work, to tucking the kids at night. you will wake up when everyone is still asleep , to prepare their day. And you have to wait for everyone to sleep before you can finally rest your body in bed at night. And when you close your eyes, there goes the bills , the this and that that you have to care about.. not to mention the pressures at work, your health and all. Then there you are, staring blankly at the ceiling trying to figure out everything, forcing your exhausted brain to come up with something. And you only have yourself to embrace with when tears broke in. You feel helpless. you wish you can just give up. Everyday is a battle. And there’s never an easy one, but you will wipe your tears away and smile, you ll pray and will firmly convince yourself that you will get through it. I don’t know how you do it, but you will still wake up the next day with a smile on your face. If you are not a superhero, I don’t know what is.
You didn’t plan to be a single mom. All of us once wished to be a princess with a knight in shining armor, and live happily ever after. but life is not a fairy tale honey.. so you just have to deal with your cards. Being a single mom is a broad, deep, complicated thing that only those who’ve walked the same road may fully understand. It is not for the weak and fainthearted. It takes a lot of courage to be one. Most of your days you will feel like you failed. You can work day and night and worn your body and soul, but that’s never enough to call u the best mom. it aches your heart that you cant give your kids the quality time they need. You can hardly provide all the things that they want. you don’t have holidays.. and well, you don’t even have the minute to think of finding your man. To find someone who can accept you and everything about you is another story. Sometimes life is difficult. it feels impossible to take a breath, even for a strong woman. And on those moments when the walls feels like closing and suffocating you, when options are limited., just remind yourself that they can’t break you! you’re doing well 🙂 Sometimes it may really take long, but even the clouds run out of rain. These too, the hardships, shall pass. stay strong.
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